Hey Glowgetters, 

As a global citizen one thing I’ve noticed on my travels is the differnce between confident children and those who are shy.  Travelling often can bring out the best and worst in people.  The world is fast paced and complex, but one of the best things we can do for our children is to boost their confidence.

Raise children that are prepared to thrive, not just survive. I’ve complied a little list of six reminders to build your children’s confidence.

💫 Build Confidence Early

Confidence is the cornerstone to resilience

Children who believe in themselves are more likely to try new things, stand up for themselves & handle setbacks. 

Simplest way is to encourage effort over outcome. Praise them for trying and for succeeding.

Let them make decisions, we sit and have family meetings and discussions where everyone has a voice, we discuss together what the plan is so everyone is on the same page and happy with the plan.  

I feel this is important because when children feel heard & trusted they begin to trust themselves too.  I have spent years of deep work rewiring this very mindset. 

💫 Teach problem solving skills

This can be done through weekly family games or logic solution tasks.  Maybe introduce a family games night. Ask them how they think they should solve problems rather than just doing it for them. 

This encourages independent thinking & gives them tools to handles challenges on their own. As a parent it can be tough, but letting them know that failing is the first attempt in learning - offer support and reflection by asking ‘What would you do differently next time?’  This teaches grit, adaptability and self awareness

💫 Model emotional intelligence

 The good old adage of lead by example… Children learn from those around them. When people around them are overwhelmed & discuss through the emotions calmly they learn to do the same. Showing empathy for feelings encourages them to feel, process and discuss their own. This sets the stage for healthier relationships and stronger self control.

💫 Teach them to be kind and assertive

Children need to know how to assert themselves and set boundaries whilst still being kind to others. This lesson I learned late in life, I was always a people pleaser and put my needs last, this has often lead to challenges that were unnecessary. Learning how to say no politely but firmly, how to speak up when they see something or someone being mistreated and how to ask for help when needed will be an asset as they grow up.  Assertiveness is an ally to kindness

💫 Strong sense of identity

Children who are curious are empowered.  Introduce them to new cultures, ideas and perspectives. Travel, read books from around the world and watch documentaries to learn about other cultures and environments. 

Talk about current events and ask them questions, when children are taught to ask questions and seek understanding this helps them develop into thoughtful open minded adults.  Children who are confident in who they are and what they believe are less like to be swayed by peer pressure.

Remember to celebrate their unique traits, interests, and opinions. Encourage self expression to give them confidence and strength to stand strong in a face paced world. 

💫 Communication  

The most important thing you can do with your children is to maintain a strong relationship. Stay connected, no matter how independent they become, they need to know you’re always there for them.

Check in with them about their school, activities, what their thoughts are and how they’re feeling.  Remember to listen without judgement, your presence and belief in them will give them confidence and courage when you’re not by their side.

Preparing your child to face the world isn’t about shielding and protecting them. It’s about empowering them with skills, giving support and confidence to face challenges. The world will continue to change and evolve, but the resilience, empathy, curiosity and courage will serve them for a lifetime.

Thank you for reading, if this was useful and if it could help someone in your network, please share. Thank you!

Wishing you continued success & prosperity ~ Diana x